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一位寄托网友第七次签证之后的感想，读来感人至深。与大家分享。
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今天是我的生日。全家冀望这一天能给我带来运气。其实我并非想今天去，因为现在广州政策好像改了，约得很靠后。12月1日外出，劳烦一好友代约(当时网上据说约到1月2日了)。我其实想在上月下旬去，学校就要开学了。真是一个巧合。现在广州领管确有改变，今天好像是1000和返签一起排队，vo都用电脑(以前签证台上没有，手里不用拿申请人过往的表格看据签记录)，领馆大门在翻新，由临时同道进入。
这次可谓祸不单行。昨天白天，我的尾骨隐隐作痛，晚上加剧。不明白什么原因，没伤过。深夜疼醒了，夜尿时全身冷颤。痛意不减，今早7：00不得不起来，因为约了8点83号。起来后体温下降，晕坐地上。赶快趁还有一丝清醒之际，唤叫弟弟。本不用别人陪去，结果还是让弟同去。看能否让他也进去，至少让他了解一下，对他日后有帮助。那时卧在床上，顿感一丝唏嘘。弟弟虽没申请过签证，但自身的挫折困难不比我少。留学乃至整个学业路途上，就只有弟弟一人始终如一支持我的决定，从未有所保留，二十多年来我们相互促进。
今天毕竟是生日。梳洗一番，精神好多了，尽管尾骨还痛得很，走动不大方便。两兄弟一起吃过早点就上路，此时已过8:35am。我们打车到沙面。我跟门口的保安哥哥寒暄几句，他就让我快快进去，但弟弟不能进，尽管我身体可能会再出意外。
进了签证厅，看到有有近一百人排蛇饼队，大约两个vo，三号是我第一次见的短发MM，很年轻很nice，第一个感觉就像找Interview，二号没看到。交了四大件后，叫我排2号窗。我就问能避开以前见过的vo吗?小姐回答，到时候请跟vo说，他来决定。我只好排了。我是9点过一些进入领馆管制区的。
看到二号是小胡子，我不大愿跟他interview，都据过我两次了，在盘算如何跟他说。小胡子还是一如既往的爱问questions而少看材料，据的也多，起码十来个才过一个。他西装革履的，很professional的样子。DFMM就不同了，虽不很多，但起码五六个就过一个。她很 slim and pretty，只穿一件黑T-shirt，typical American girl, 举止活泼可爱。(这都只是我的个人意见)我更喜欢她的耐心有礼，签过了，她恭喜你一番，说说要注意些什么;不过，也很nice的说遗憾，解释一番，给点意见。这是亚裔gg出来客串一号，还像以前爱穿黑色长袖衬衣，不变的发型。其实我常说他华裔，说不定是广东籍华裔，广州话说得很好。他是去年夏天的大水车，我认识几个朋友都签了三四次最后在他手上过。但他客串了2、 3个就离开了，有过的。也很nice。
小胡子和DFMM有相同地方，签得慢，尤其是MM。站了一个多小时，一支队才去掉20人左右。后来小胡子和DFMM都退下。出来时换了位置。我感到有希望了。站到约11点半，我感到很不舒服了，就离队坐在椅上，歇了三四分钟。期间突然一声拍击，有一中年男子大骂vo，说是花了那么多钱投到美国高这个项目，机票都定了，想不到vo竟如此滥用权力。离开时，还老远指着vo批。一名保安低声劝他先离开：“以后还可以再来嘛。”不明原因，我也没多理会了。其实骂也没用。但我很赏识这保安，不像另有一个对一个累了踩着栏杆柱的老太婆说：“你都说年纪大。年纪大还去什么美国。”
就这样等到将近12点，还有约40来人，莫非要下午签?我前面有一个女孩跟DFMM说她岗在英国读了三年毕业回来。但MM说，你离开这里有三年了，很可能对这里了解不深，你没能证这里有strong ties。我建议你在国内先呆两年。章已盖下，但女孩还跟她说，MM也说了几句。最后女孩还是无功而回。
终到我了。我手里一大堆东西(全自费，两年Master，跟夏天时签的学校不同)，兴冲冲上前，往台上一放，两手放下。微笑着先说：Happy New Year!她先是奇怪一下，也回礼
Happy New Year!
Me：(抢先)I feel a little nervous…
MM: Take care. Don’t be nervous. Just listen to me and answer my questions.
Me: Because it’s my birthday. (Smile)
MM: Don’t say that. Let’s go on… Where are you going to study in United
States?
Me: *** State U, **. My professors recommend it.
MM: Hem, you’re going to study Electrical Engineering. So tell me what
will make sure you will come back?
Me: (说了这里的电信发展，想致力未来的通信。其次my goal是成为这方面的专家和教授)
Would you like to see my materials (意图主动些)?
MM：No. Do think you can be a professor after you get a Master’s degree?
Me: I will. Because 我的一位好友硕士毕业要留校，将一步步向professor进军。
MM： what university?
Me: *** U. I graduated from this U. Some of my professors run companies.
MM: (看了一下I20)Who will pay your study in US? (上面写着Family Funds)
Me: Self funding and my sister and brother in law. Would you like to see
their materials?
MM: No, just listen to my questions. Do they live in America?
Me: yes.
MM: How did they go to America?
Me: They immigrated to America in Nineteen Nineties. Family based immigrant
visas.
MM: why Family based immigrant visas?
Me: My brother in law immigrated to US in 1994 because his family in
America. My sister married him in 1995 and she went to US in 1999.
MM: (nodding, writing on my forms) only one sister in US?
Me: yes. And one sister in China here. My father is a permanent resident on
Hong Kong. I have a twin brother. He’s waiting outside this consulate.
Would you like to see him?
MM: I see. Do you have any change?
Me: Yes. (快速第进一个文件夹，有三个英国学校的offer of place)First, this.
MM: (翻看了第一个)Very good university. How many university have you apply
to?
Me: (立刻翻开装成绩的夹子，指着G成绩单)You can see this.
MM: (接过看，还读出一所的名字)
Me: Second, I have been selected for the new essential technical project of
our company. That will be the most advanced *** in Guangdong. Third, I don’
t wanna be a ** Engineer only. I hope to dedicate in communications. China’
s future 3G communication system will combine telecom and cable TV…
MM: (突然又问有这里什么东西一定吸引你回来)。
Me：An advanced degree from US is extremely attractive here. I will have a
very promising career future here. This is the first choice. Second choice,
as I said my father is a Hong Kong permanent resident, I can go to Hong
Kong with him.
MM: (had a look at my form) Do you live in Guangzhou?
Me: Yes. I work in Guangzhou. Work for **** as an assistant engineer for **.
MM: (had a look at my form again) Oh yes. How long have you worked?
Me: More than 2 years. I graduated from ** U in year 2000.
MM: *&*%^*^
Me: Sorry? (很快悟出她问月工资多少。真是反应迟钝。^0^)
MM: (中文)一个月收入…
Me: (at the same time)You mean salary. (She nodded.) Last year more than
*** (a quite decent #).
MM: (Nodded again) You…excellent…But…the law…I am sorry I can’t issue
a visa…(说完就盖章了)。
Me: (怕她认为我混得还不够好) Please see my personal funds.
MM: Oh no. I trust you. But you can’t conform that you will come back…You
will go to this university (指着那所英国学校)。(你看你后面还有那么多人。)And
I think you should have a break. You’ve come here several times.
Me: I had a break. Last time in August. Fourth months. (她都一时无话可说)
Me: (不愿放弃。脑子拼命转，立刻说)None of my family members stay in US even
though they had nonimmigrant visa. (忙翻出妈妈的护照) Let me show you my
mother’s visa. She went to US in 2001 and she came back.
MM: I know she came back. But you can’t…please understand that I don’t
mean you are telling a lie, and that you are an excellent student.
Me: (还是不愿放弃，拿出最后一个王牌夹子。里头是打印出来的我和一个美国姐姐前年的
emails)Look at this, please. She is the former ***.
MM: Oh no. (但当她看到夹在上面的卡片，语气即刻变了，快速说一句) Wait a minute!(拿到旁边去)
Me: (顿感有机会复生，补了一句) I got to know her in March 2001. (但又担心，因为她去找小胡子。因为网上盛传她举棋不定时总爱问小胡子，问后90%是死。)
MM: (很快回来) I am sorry…
Me: (心里很不甘，但已让位给后面的人)Anyway, thank you.
弟弟在外等了三个小时有多了，今天辛苦他了。很多东西可以不要，但永远不能失去手足情。两兄弟一起吃午饭，还请了一个在领馆工作的同学。路还是要走下去的。
个人总结：
1. 健康很重要。留得青山在，哪怕没柴烧。个人成功，我认为，靠时机和生命，缺一不可。
2. 广州的形势依我今日所见，还不差。但F1不多，仿佛过的也很少。我还是蛮喜欢DFMM的，至少对她的工作打90分。她过与不过，不分男女老少，不分年龄，不分样貌。有的收入也不算高都过了。我很喜欢她的穿着casual又得体。不是说小胡子不好，而是他很严格，过不容易。
3. 别人会认为硬伤多。但法律没规定这样不能去美国，过分紧张没用。为什么?因为我的理由是我想到美国读书，我要达到，就得争取。
4. 我还没紧咬Plan和中国的现状，不应只着重个儿和家庭现实，因为这一经是事实了，我和家人都没错的，不要过于拘泥。
今天很累，身体又不争气，总算写成一份签经。大家什么问题，看过再说吧。