Teenager,Problem,Normal,the,ne family A Teenager’s Problem

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Normal 0      If the neurons(brain cells) in the memorypages of my mind serve me correctly, then I also was once a young“whipper-snapper(teenager)…although at my current young age of 68 , it seemsmore like a figment of my imagination running wild in the misty clouds of mymind.   Back then, when vehicles weretrue automobiles, and singers such as Elvis Presley actually ‘sang” instead ofjust yelling and talking, and music was real music instead of a din of noise,we teenagers had just about the same enigmas as the young folks of today.      Even though “go-go juice” (gas) was lessthan one one-fourth of a dollar, some of us only earned about 50 to 75 centsper hour, or less – and ergo had the problem of how we were to afford to putpetro in the tank, buy sodas and hamburgers for ourselves and our dates, inhope of accomplishing whatever goal we had in our minds.  Some, if not most of us were also concernedabout our grades, sports of all types, and an conglomeration of otherproblems.  However’ we survived as bestas our mental, physical, and emotional facilities would allow us.        Personally, I am a very firm believerthat all teenagers are loaded with ambitions, talents and abilities, and theywant to do what is right.  Their biggestproblem is that they don’t realize that all of those talents and abilities arewithin them…and even if they know, they don’t have the knowledge of how to earna good living with them.  Once theyrealize it, all they would have to do is choose the talent and/or ability theyfeel they are best suited for, and write down on paper the steps they need totake in order to fulfill that goal.      Having said that, it was one early summerevening when a 16 year old young lady (whom I knew) came into the restaurantwhere I had ensconsed my happy self, reading a book.  Sitting down across from me, and obviously very agitated,proceeded to tell me she was in big trouble! Naturally, the inflections in her voice made me to silently think: ‘Ohno, please don’t tell me you are pregnant.”  After taking three deep breaths, I asked her to calm down, and explainthe problem to me.  Her answer was thatshe was grounded for two months --- still believing that I too was once ateenager, I knew that, from her perspective, that life itself was over forher.  Thankfully, I deleted the negativethought my imagination had conjured up about her being pregnant, I knew herlife wasn’t over, and asked the proverbial question – why?      She proceeded to explain that she hadlied to her parents about something her brother did, but realized she nevershould have done so…that was a plus! Then I asked her if she knew the real reason her parents grounded her,and she replied in a rather sheepish tone of voice: “yeah, because they loveme!” --- that was really a big plus! Personally,  I was really proudof her at that point, and decided to attempt to help her in her moment ofdistress…so I went on to say that since she knew the answers as to why sheshould not have lied, and that they love her, that I would offer a possiblesolution.  Her eyes lit up as big as doeeyes, and asked in an excited tone of voice ---how?        When asked what she was going to do whenshe went home, her reply was that she was going straight to her room…”oh sure,go home with a big pout all over your face – don’t do that!” I replied.  I went on to tell her to walk through thefront door, and right up to your parents, look them in their eyes, and tellthem that you know it was wrong to lie for your brother, and that you fullyrealize that the only reason they grounded you for so long was because theylove you.  Then turn around and walkslowly to your room, and leave the door open. I also added that she should not look back, because her parent’s mouthswould be on the floor.      About a week passed before I saw heragain, when she walked into the restaurant, and where I was once again readingg a book.  Obviously being in quite ahurry, she said:  “Guess what! Itworked! I was only grounded for a week. Thank You!”  She then left and I never saw her again.      As stated earlier, all kids want to dowhat is right, and as adults, it is up to us to remember that they have neitherthe knowledge nor the experience we have. In addition; screaming at them, hitting them, and/or handing out drasticpunishments is not going to solve the problem…it will only cause them to hateyou, and never have anything to do with you again in your elder years ---trustme, you will regret that! When a problem arises, please try the following:      Tell them, from your viewpoint, what theproblem consists of, and ask if they understand your point of view. If so, putyou arm around them gently, and tell them that you love them…and that as yourmother, or father, you want to help them in any way you can.  Both of you will now be relaxed, love andunderstanding will kick in, and you both will be able to solve the problem in apeaceful manner.  Kids need all the helpthey can get, and it is up to us parents to see that they willingly com to usfor advice --- for if we don’t, they will seek it else-where (on the streets),and do you really want that …I sure hope not! Imagine what you will discovernext!