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In working with parents, I find that few have actuallyspoken directly to their child about the topic. Those who have discussedthe topic admit to doing so on one or two occasions, but then never again. It seems to be a difficult subject to approach and yet it is so importantin influencing your teens behavior. The problem is that parents are not askingthe teen directly and arent engaging in regular discussions about the topic.We need to change this and start discussing the topic more openly and moreregularly. First it is important for you to express your desiredirectly. Tell your child you do not want them drinking and explain why. The goal is not to get into a power struggle but to set clearexpectations about their choices. Just because you set a clear boundarydoes not mean they will stick to it but it does improve the chances that theywill make good choices. Also consider your own actions as you are asking them toconsider theirs. If you tell them not to drink but then they witness yourepeatedly drinking excessively, then they are less likely to respect yourboundary. This does not mean you can never drink, but rather thatencourages you to make appropriate choices as an example to your child. Finally, continue to educate your child by openly andfrequently bringing up the subject. Do not lecture but rather invitediscussion by asking questions. By asking questions you give them achance to share what they know and you get insight into their thoughts andfeelings about the subject. Ask them what they know about alcohol. Askthem when the last time was that someone offered them a drink. Ask howthey handled the situation. You can even practice with them so they getcomfortable turning down a drink. You may even notice changes in how they discuss it withyou. A change in their openness may indicate a change in their drinkinghabits. These changes can alert you to potential problems or reassure you oftheir obedience to your boundaries. Ideally you can continue these conversations with enoughregularity that your child knows what you expect of them and know that they canapproach you if, and when, they need to. The goal is to create safetyaround the subject. You do not want your silence to imply consent so donot be silent on the subject. Get educated so that you can educate themabout underage drinking.For moreinformation go to the SOBERINFO blog or SOBERINFO.com
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