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I'm sure Canada's statistics are very similar.Looking at my own family of four, 75% of my family is blended becausemy children have step-siblings. Bringing divorced parents together forspecial events like graduations, weddings and other celebrations can betricky and stressful, if not correctly handled. These milestone eventsstir a sense of nostalgia, but for divorced parents and their childrenthey can also bring up bittersweet memories and trigger old emotionalwounds.Let's take a typical scenario. Your very first grandchildhas been born and you are over the moon with joy. You race over to thehospital to see your newborn grandchild. You enter the hospital roomand you notice your son or daughter already has a visitor and it's yourformer partner. What do you do? How do you and your former partnertreat each other? Do you offer each other heartfelt congratulations ordoes your joyous mood suddenly drop like a stone?Family eventsget even more challenging when there are new spouses and step-childrenin the picture. I'm sure there are many photographers who havewitnessed some of the politics and power struggles that can show upeven in posing for official photos. "I'm not standing next to her" or"She shouldn't even be in this picture, she's just his new trophywife." Seating arrangements, photographs, special roles andresponsibilities are just a few of the issues that can be anything butpeaceful and joyous.Are there any tips for how to turn thatspecial occasion into one blended families will treasure, instead ofone they'll want to forget? Here are a few strategies all divorcedparents could implement to ensure family events are a delight insteadof a disaster.1. Connect to a Vision.Takethe time to create a new inspiring vision of life after divorce.Stephen Covey says to "begin with the end in mind." Look ahead to howyou want their child's special day to go and how you want to feel. Makesure all choices move the blended family towards that new vision.2. Do Some Advance Planning.Preparingto bring blended families together definitely requires advanceplanning. Set up clear agreements about who is doing what ahead of timeso there are no last-minute surprises. Divorced parents should dealwith any issues with their ex-spouse directly, and keep their childrenout of the potential cross-fire.3. It's Not About You.Rememberwho the focus of the celebration is. Always keep your children's bestinterests in mind. Guests will take their cue from the divorcedparents. If you think you'll need help keeping your cool or managingyour sadness, find an ally at the celebration that can stick close andcheck on you. If you and your former spouse can treat each other withrespect and tact, everyone can relax and enjoy the celebration.4. Be Present.Setan intention for having a happy, joyful family celebration. Physicalreminders, like holding a special stone or wearing a ring on adifferent finger, can help people stay grounded and calm. Being in thepresent moment, instead of re-living the past or projecting into thefuture, is critical.5. Be Grateful. Youand your former spouse may no longer be married, but you'll always beparents. Whether appreciating children, friends, family or good healthcultivating gratitude will create more peace and joy. Article Tags: Divorced Parents, Each Other
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