partner,alcoholic,Are,you,one, family Is my partner an alcoholic?
A lot of women avoid wearing nice clothes when they getpregnant because they believe that they look fat or ugly. You know that theresnothing more beautiful than a pregnant woman glowing and smiling, so youshouldnt hide your body during p Raising a family can be challenging and stressful at times. However, the common goals and emotional, financial, and physical investments made can be a common bond between husband and wife. One that compliments their marriage relationship.Of
Are you one of many people who livewith someone who drinks heavily? Do youwonder whether your partner is an alcoholic. Well you are certainly not alone. For many people living with problem drinkers means agony and confusionwondering whether their partner is actually an alcoholic or whether they aremaking a fuss about nothing. This is avery real problem for many reasons. You, like most partners of drinkers, probably hide thefact that your partner is drinking heavily. You probably do not want your family and friends to know about thisaspect of your life, which means that you are left alone with no one to talk toand no one to test out your fears or ask advice. You are lefy with the evidence of your owneyes about what is happening, and the drinker's view of what is happening isgenerally very different. So you canbecome confused, and even fearful of your own sanity. The only person you have to discuss thesituation with is the drinker him or herself and they often deny that there isa problem. In most cases the drinkerdoes not admit having problem, until it is very obvious to everyone else. So despite your gut feelings you are facedwith the drinker's denial of a problem. Understandably this leads to a lot of doubt about whether you are justmaking a fuss over nothing and, of course, the drinker will happily reinforcethat doubt so that they can continue drinking. A second problem is a concentration on the wordalcoholic. There are many definitions ofwhat constitutes and what causes alcoholism. This makes it more difficult for the drinker to admit a problem and alsomakes it easier to argue that they don't have a problem. Lets make that a bit clearer. For most people, even today, the wordalcoholic still carries a lot of shame. It suggests a damaged person somebody who is different from the rest ofsociety, who has a different psychological or genetic makeup and thereforecan't drink. It is very difficult formost people to admit that they are different in any way from everyone else, itis even more difficult if that difference carries with it a sense ofshame. Consider how difficult it isadmit being different, if that means having to give up something that mostpeople enjoy without any problem.So the lack of a clear definition of alcoholism can be veryuseful for the drinker. It means thatthey can point to various aspects of definitions and say well I can't be analcoholic because I don't do that. Forexample if we look at the cage questionnaire (a simple assessment tool) itsuggests that one of the defining features of alcoholism is the so-calledeye-opener, that is having a drink first thing in the morning. Although most people who do drink first thingin the morning would clearly have a drink problem, many people with a drinkproblem, or even alcoholism, don't drink first thing in the morning. Therefore concentrating too much on adiagnosis of alcoholism can lead to difficulties, and to a very large degree,fails to recognize and address the real problems. Other common arguments are I cant be analcoholic because I dont drink all the time or I dont get drunk every timeI drink. So what!!Whether something has a problem with their drinking does notlie in whether they fit a diagnosis or not, but rather whether or not alcoholis causing a problem in their life. Forexample is it causing problems between themselves and their partner, or betweenthemselves and their friends, or at work, or does their behaviour deterioratewhen they drink. These are the realsigns of a drink problem. Whether theyfit the definition of an alcoholic or not is a side issue. If you have a headache you probably treat itwith a pain killer. You almost certainlydont argue that you dont need to do something about it because it is not abrain tumour. If you think yourpartners drinking is a problem, it almost certainly is! You dont need a medical diagnosis to tellyou that you are miserable, frightened, embarrassed or however it manifests.
partner,alcoholic,Are,you,one,