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THE 10 WORST TIPS TO GIVE SOMEONE WHO HAS TO SPEAK IN PUBLIC1. Learn the speech by heart or read it from a script.This is meant to be a way of making sure you don’t forget whatyou’re going to say. Instead, it’s usually a way of making sureyou don’t connect with your audience. Most people who use a script end up reading it out and, unlessyou’re a professional actor or a very experienced speaker, thiswill come across as unnatural and stilted and it will stop youlooking at your audience.If you try to memorise a script, you may find you are under evenmore pressure to remember what you want to say because, if yougo off the script, there’s no way back.It’s better to prepare some notes which can be a guide shouldyou need one. By the time you’ve prepared the speech, you willknow the main areas you want to cover. Put these down asheadings on paper or cards in LARGE PRINT so you can see themwhen you’re standing up. You may then only need a couple of keywords to add to these to remind you of the main points you wantto make in each area. If you need more than this, you may be trying to cover too muchinformation. You may also think of a couple of really good waysof saying something, or a good story to use to illustrate apoint. Jot these down so you don’t forget.2. Rehearse in front of a mirror.This may be a bit controversial because I know several books andtrainers give this tip. All I can say is I have never found Icould do this. I do rehearse ( sometimes ) and sometimes I tape myself to hearwhat it sounds like. But I can’t watch myself in a mirror andthink about what I’m saying, it’s just too distracting. If youwant to see what you look like, ask someone to watch you or usea video camera. However, don’t get bogged down with worryingabout how you look. The main purpose of rehearsing is to reinforce the talk in yourmemory, check how long it takes and help you spot those areaswhere what you want to say doesn’t sound right or where youmight get confused. Then you can think of some effective phrasesto use to help get your point across. You can do this without amirror.3. Use plenty of slides.This is sometimes offered as a ‘ tip ‘ for taking attention fromyourself. Give the audience something else to look at. Anothertip is to give them a hefty handout at the start so they havesomething to read. The problem is - YOU should be the centre of attention. Peoplewant to hear what you’ve got to say and the best way tocommunicate your message is by speaking effectively. By allmeans use visual aids if they will help but they shouldcomplement what you’re saying, not just reproduce your ownnotes. Similarly with handouts, they can be very helpful but you needto know why you are using them. If they have backup information,give them out at the end. If they contain some key ideas youwant to refer to as you go along, give them out at the start,but make sure they don’t distract people from what you aresaying. Let’s be honest – if you’re that concerned about getting out ofthe spotlight, you shouldn’t be doing this in the first place. 4. Wear a cartoon tie to show you have a sense of humour.This is linked to a couple of the other ‘ tips ‘ which are meantto give you a helping hand in getting the audience on your side.Wearing a funny tie is saying “ Look, I’m really a nice guy.Give me a chance. “ I won’t go into detail here for fear of alienating all of youwho might, even now, be wearing such attire, but I have to say,that’s NOT what most people think when they see someone wearinga cartoon tie.In terms of dress, wear something you feel comfortable in andwhich seems appropriate. That’s a bit vague, but it depends onyour audience. The usual approach is to dress slightly smarterthan you expect the audience to dress. Too much of a differencebetween you and them can cause problems with credibility. Justthink about the impression you want to give and, in general,avoid anything which could be a distraction.Incidentally, I really don’t know what the female equivalent ofthe cartoon tie would be. Any suggestions?5. Start off with a joke.This is a bit like the previous ‘ tip ‘. Break the ice, showwhat a good sense of humour you have, get them on your side.Please don’t do this. Not unless you’re a good joke – teller andthis joke is absolutely guaranteed to get a laugh. And, eventhen, only if it’s appropriate in some way. One of the best waysto kill your chances from the start is to begin with a jokewhich has nothing to do with your subject and watch it flop.Believe me, you’ll wish you were somewhere else and youraudience will too.Use humour if you can. It will help get your message across andit will get the audience on your side, but be careful with it.You can use stories, things that have happened to you or toother people which relate to your talk. Being a bit self –deprecating can be a good way to gain an audience’s trust butdon’t overdo it. If in doubt, leave it out.6. Tell them you’re nervous to get them on your side.Like some of the others, this is a plea for support to theaudience. You know most people hate the idea of speaking inpublic, so you appeal to their sympathy by telling them how badyou feel. Another approach is to apologise – “ I don’t know whyI was asked to do this. I’ve never done this sort of thingbefore. “This NEVER works.One thing you can generally be sure of is that, at the start ofa talk, your audience will want you to succeed. You shouldremember this when you feel nervous. They will give you a chanceto do well and they will mainly be prepared to listen ( and theywill probably be really glad it’s not them doing it ). But they are also expecting something in return for the timethey are giving up. If you start suggesting that, in some way,this is going to be a lousy speech, they’ll believe you. Andthey’ll switch off. You will have lost any sympathy they had.To get over your nerves at the start, have a clear and positiveopening worked out. This is one part of the speech you canmemorise to get you through the first few moments. Just tellthem who you are, what you are talking about and what they willgain from listening. Then get on with it.7. Stand still and don’t move your hands about.A lot of people who are inexperienced at public speaking trytheir utmost to stop themselves moving about. They seem to havesome fear that their bodies will go out of control and they’lldo something totally ridiculous or embarrassing. So they try tokeep absolutely still, often by holding onto a lectern like thesurvivor of a shipwreck clinging to a piece of driftwood on theocean.The best way to make contact with an audience and to keep theirattention is to behave as if you are speaking to them in anormal conversation. So you move about, you use gestures, youlook at them. When speakers try to stop themselves doing thesethings, they become unnatural, distant from the audience. So don’t get too hung up about any mannerisms you think you mayhave. It’s usually better to look natural than to try to delivera talk as though from a straightjacket. Just avoid some obviousdistractions, like playing with something in your hands, pushingyour hands in your pockets and juggling your change( a malething ), shifting back and forth on one leg. But, if what youare saying is interesting, people will listen.8. Stare over the heads of the audience.This is a way of pretending to establish eye contact withoutreally doing so, because some people feel awkward about it. Theydon’t really want to look at the audience. The idea is that, ifyou look out over their heads, they will think you are lookingat them. Actually, they won’t. They’ll think “ Why is this person lookingover my head? “. To my mind, the key factor in gaining an audience’s attentionand keeping it ( apart from the fascinating content of your talk) is eye contact. If you were talking to someone who neverlooked at you, what would you think? Chances are you’d think “ This person isn’t interested in me.He’s not listening. “ Or, if the person was speaking but notlooking at you, you may think they were a bit shifty, perhapsdishonest. In any event, you wouldn’t find it a pleasantexperience. The same goes for speaking in public. If I am in an audience andthe speaker doesn’t look at me, I can’t feel that person isinterested in me or whether I am listening. So I stop listening.On the other hand, if the speaker makes a point of keeping eyecontact with me, it gives me the feeling that he cares aboutmaking some connection with me and I’ll feel less inclined toswitch off.So look at them while you speak, keep your eyes moving aroundthe room so you engage everyone there. If it’s a very bigaudience, you can look at a section at a time but, with a smallaudience, you will need to look at individuals. Not for toolong, but glance at everyone as you speak so no – one feels leftout.9. Imagine the audience naked.This is supposed to be another way to deal with nerves. I haveactually seen it in guides to presentations. The best answer to this is one I found in the book “ SuccessfulPresentations for Dummies “ by Malcolm Kushner: IDG Books. Hesays there is probably half the audience who you wouldn’t mindseeing naked. The other half you certainly would never want tosee naked. Either way, it’s not a calming thought.Another ‘ tip ‘ I have come across is to pretend the audienceisn’t there. This probably works in a way because I canguarantee, if you pretend the audience isn’t there, pretty soonit won’t be.I mentioned eye contact above. You can’t just ignore the peopleout there and expect your talk to have any impact. There arelots of ways to tackle nerves but they come under 3 categories:* preparation, think through what could go wrong and prepare forit, know your subject and be clear about why you are giving thetalk, also keep things in perspective – what’s the worst thancan happen? You’re not performing brain surgery.* relaxation or deep breathing exercises.* positive self – talk, visualise the talk going really well,tell yourself it will be a success, know that you have preparedand that you can do this and stop yourself when you start tothink it will all be a disaster.Above all, remember that everyone gets nervous when they have tospeak in public. If you don’t feel nervous, you should asksomeone to check your pulse. The nerves themselves are not theproblem. You can carry on and give a great talk even though youfeel nervous at the start. 10. Have a drink beforehand to calm your nerves.No, no, no. Alcohol and nerves are a lethal combination. Haveyou ever sat through a Best Man’s speech at a wedding? Thenyou’ll know what I mean. Don’t do it.Incidentally, if you want to have a glass of water at hand incase your mouth gets dry – use still not sparkling. Belchinginto a microphone is not to be recommended.There you are – the top 10 things to avoid when speaking inpublic. Keep away from these, follow my simple rules, and youwon’t go far wrong.Good luck.