Two,strategies,ease,stress,and DIY Two strategies to ease stress and suffering

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Normal 0 false false false EN-US X-NONE X-NONE /* Style Definitions */ table.MsoNormalTable{mso-style-name:"Table Normal";mso-tstyle-rowband-size:0;mso-tstyle-colband-size:0;mso-style-noshow:yes;mso-style-priority:99;mso-style-parent:"";mso-padding-alt:0in 5.4pt 0in 5.4pt;mso-para-margin:0in;mso-para-margin-bottom:.0001pt;mso-pagination:widow-orphan;font-size:10.0pt;font-family:"Calibri","sans-serif";mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman";}The Holiday season is uponus and that brings social and familial commitments.  With these commitments, there is an increasein conflict and stress.  We are aware itwill happen and promise to ourselves not to let it get us this year.  What follows will provide two necessary strategiesfor handling any conflict or stressful situation during this Holiday season,and it will begin to reduce suffering in our lives if practiced with genuineintegrity.Conflict or stress is aform of suffering.  Suffering is a directresult of expectations not being met.  It emerges from interactions between us and the world.*  In these interactions, suffering is a resultof not acknowledging what we can effect change in or in essence, control.   We do not recognize that what the world isand what aspects of our experiences in the world are not within our control.  In our experiences in the world, what is inour control is how we react to that encounter and how we perceive the experiencesin the world; this is all that is within our grasp to effect change in and control.  What does this mean?  I can control or effect change in my reactionto the encounter or situation.  I canalso control or effect change in how I perceive the conflict or stressfulencounter in the world, as well as how I perceive the world itself.  This is it. I cannot control any other aspect of the encounter or experience.  What the other says, I cannot control.  What the other does, I cannot control.  What the world is I cannot control.  Simple really, we want to avoid or eliminateconflict and stress, thus ease suffering during the holidays; so, acknowledgewhat we can control and accept what we cannot control is the simple solution toreducing conflict and stress, thus easing suffering.Consider any stressful experienceyou encounter in life or during the holiday season.  With that or any experience, our role in anyencounter is all that we can control.  Reducingconflict and stress begins with accepting what we can control and applying twostrategies for change.   We must become aware of what we perceive in ourexperiences in the world and how we react in our encounters and experiences.  This is not easy, but it is possible withsincerity and integrity.  Take aparticular action against another or a judgment made by a person about someoneelse.  There are two events occurring inthis encounter or experience in the world. The first is the perception of the judgment by the person and second,our reaction to the judgment by the person. The two strategies are what our attention must address.  Effecting change in our perceptions of ourexperiences in the world and effecting change in our reactions to thoseencounters are the two strategies for reducing conflict and stress.  Apply these two strategiesby asking, with sincerity and integrity, a few fundamental questions.  ·       “Do I judgeothers?”   ·       “What is it aboutthe world that I believe that leads me to make this judgment?”  ·       “How can I reactto this judgment?”  When making a judgment, wejustify it from a principle about what the world is that we believe or endorse. Our beliefs about what the world isdiffer; but, our different beliefs about what the world is differ from what theworld is independent of our beliefs about what the world is.  The actual questioning of “What is it aboutthe world…” initiates the change of what we perceive the world to be.  What weperceive is what we want.  To change whatwe perceive, we must change want we want. When reacting to an encounter, our reaction appears to be instinctual,but it is a habit and habits can be changed.  The actual questioning of “Howcan I react…” begins the change of how we react.  How wereact is what we perceive.  To change howwe react, we must change what we perceive. Once we recognize and acknowledge what is in within our control, we thenstart to see how what we believe the world is is not necessarily what the worldis independent of our beliefs of what the world is.  These strategies of grasping what we perceivethe world to be and how we react in encounters and experiences allow us tohandle any conflict or stressful situation and even ease the suffering in ourlives.  *The world is to beunderstood as the ultimate setting for all experience:  past, present, and future.**Thisis a simple idea to eliminate suffering in your life that most all ancienttexts, philosophical, religious and otherwise, mention.