Getting,Out,Abusive,Relationsh DIY Getting Out of a Abusive Relationship

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You weren’t able to read the warning signs in time, ordespite knowing that they were there you still couldn’t get of the dangerousrelationship you are in. I know what that’s like. With me, the man in questionand I were never dating, but even so he was the most abusive relationship Ihave ever experienced in my life. He would try to turn me against my friends,he pushed the guy I actually liked away, he lied to me more than he told thetruth, he would call me all the time and get verbally abusive if I didn’tanswer him back right away, he would freak out when I was spending time withanother man, he would force me to do certain “things”, he would threaten me, hesaid he would follow me all over the world, and all of this from a man I wasn’teven in a relationship with. Having him in my life in anyway made me physically sick, Ididn’t sleep well, I was always scared and defensive, I was miserable and Iknew he was the reason. Yet despite that it took me a long time to flat outtell him I didn’t want him in my life, it took me awhile to physically fighthim back and to end it. And even after all of that and many years later he isstill trying to track me down and still wants a part of my life. The thing iseven though he made me miserable I still couldn’t get myself out of the“relationship”.  I knew how, I knew whathad to be done. I could have told my mom, talked to the school, talked to thepolice, done any number of things and I didn’t. I was furious with myself for notdoing anything and yet I still couldn’t figure out why I wasn’t doing anything.To be honest even know I’m not really sure why I didn’t get out of therelationship but it will remain the biggest regret of my entire life.I remember when I was younger I would watch movies thatshowed girls in abusive relationships and they wouldn’t get out of them either.I would watch them thinking  “why don’tthey get out, it would be so easy” and “that would never happen to me” and thenit did. Now I finally understand what those other girls went through, so ifyour reading this in the middle of a abusive relationship than I know exactlywhat you’re going through. I feel your pain, I feel your confusion and I wish Icould say the perfect thing to make it all better but I don’t know what thatis.All I can do is give you some pieces of advice that I hopewill help you get out in time. Whatever age you are, you parents will alwayshelp you out. If you are in a abusive relationship the first thing you need todo is tell them. I know it’s harder than it sounds and you have probablythought about doing it multiple times but you have to do it. Even if you don’toutright say it, you can hint around it and your parents should get the hint.You can say something like “everything is going fine but I’m not in the best relationshipat the moment”. You could even ask if you could come home for a few days andperhaps over the course of those days you would get the courage to tell them. Part of the problem could be that you actually love the manwho is abusing you. With me I was in love with his best friend, so part of mewas afraid that if I kicked one out of my life I would lose both. But a manthat treats you that way doesn’t love you, no matter how many times he says it.A man who loves you would never do that to you and deep down you know that. Youhave to force that love out of your heart, keep reminding yourself that hedoesn’t really love you and you deserve better in your life. It doesn’t matterwho you are, what you look like, what you do no one deserves that. Every womancan do better than that and you need to believe that. This next part is certainly easier said than done but to meit was essential. You can’t show him your fear, when he starts yelling andcursing and possibly throwing things around the room during one of his “PMSMoments” you can’t start breaking down and crying.  Then he knows that he owns you, that hecontrols you and that you’re never going to leave. As hard as it is you have tostay strong, you have to show him that he doesn’t control you, that you’re notafraid, even if it isn’t true. Once he thinks that you aren’t afraid he startsto lose his power and that gives you the chance you need to leave. There may be times when it gets physical and this is where Ican’t really offer universal advice. There are some women who are fighters andit would be better for them to fight the men off but if you aren’t a fighterdon’t try it. I hate to say just take because I don’t believe in that but ifit’s between you taking it or fighting back and him possibly killing you than Iwould have to go with just take it. There is simply too much to cover in one article buthopefully this has given you some advice for the moment. I’m going to start awebsite just for this that will hopefully be a great source of help and if youreally need help let me know in a comment and I will talk with you privately.