Mind,Freedom,Exercise,The,Whin DIY Mind Freedom Exercise - The Whine Cellar
When starting a new work at home business it is very easy to become consumed by it. We spend so much time trying to get the business up and running that we may end up becoming burned out and lose our motivation. There is so much to learn and Normal 0 false false false MicrosoftInternetExplorer4 /* Style Definitions */ table.MsoNormalTable{mso-style-name:"Table Normal";mso-tstyle-rowband-size:0;mso-tstyle-colband-size:0;mso-style-noshow:yes;mso-style-parent:"";mso-padding-alt:0in
The Whine CellarDo you catch yourself whining and complaining needlessly about whatails you and what you don't like? Do you notice your lover doing thesame? Whining and complaining rarely elicit compassion from thosearound us but rather tend to annoy everyone. Certainly it is necessaryto deal with real problems, remove blockages, overcome difficulties,and find solutions, but whining does not help the process. The WhineCellar technique is a simple, elegant, tactful, and respectful way toget rid of whining every time it rears its annoying head.Set the stage for using this technique by agreeing to give eachother permission to identify when the other is whining and to catchyour own whining as much as possible and to stop.Time for Exercise: one minuteProperties Required: noneSteps:When you realize you have been whining, own up to it by naming whatyou were doing. For example, say to your partner: "I just listened tomyself and realized that I have been whining." Banish your whining to the Whine Cellar, never to be heard or seenagain. Say to your lover: "I am just going to drop this whole businessinto the Whine Cellar." If you catch your partner whining, say as tactfully as you can, "Itsounds like whining and complaining to me. Can we just drop this intothe Whine Cellar?" Comments:Sometimes the thing you or your lover are complaining about is avery real issue that needs to be addressed. If that is the case, afteryou have dispensed with whining about it, get down to finding a realsolution to a real problem. The Whine Cellar is not intended to be anescape from the responsibility you have to become fit for yourrelationship and to deal honestly with real problems. There is animportant difference between problem-solving and whining aboutproblems. Both of you will know the difference when you hear it.Excerpted from our new book Sensual Love Secrets for Couples: The Four Freedoms of Body, Mind, Heart and Soul, by Al Link and Pala Copeland, Llewellyn, 2007 Article Tags: Whine Cellar
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