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Tantra is a spiritual tradition that originated in India some 4,000years ago. It is a way of life that celebrates and strives for theunion of body, mind, heart and soul. Tantra is a form of yoga. Yogameans union. The ultimate purpose of Tantra is the union of lovers, andultimately union with the Divine. In the Tantric tradition, sexualityand spirituality are joined. Lovers actually invite God into their bed! Manycultures have a variation of this challenging and delightful practice,the Taoists in China and the Cheyenne in North America. There aredifferences in these practices, but all forms of sacred sexuality sharethe intentional cultivation and use of sexual energy for spiritualgrowth, healing, creativity and enhanced pleasure. The practicesof Tantra were first introduced to the west in the 1800s, but a Tantricrevival in the ashrams of India during the late 1960s has led to agradual popularization of these practices in Europe and North America.Recent testimonials by celebrity musicians and movie stars like Stingand Woody Harrelson have promoted it and Tantra is becoming the sexuallearning of choice for those who want to have it all: a passionate sexlife, a healthy body, and spiritual growth. Tantric lovemakinginvolves breathing exercises, muscle contraction exercises, sound,visualization, affirmations, creating a sacred loving space and otherceremonial practices, meditation, sensual massage, and sexual play. Inorder to build a high sexual energy charge and to move into ecstaticstates of divine connection Tantric lovers extend lovemaking overseveral hours, experiencing extraordinary levels of pleasure along theway. Part of the delight of Tantra is that you can continue tolearn and advance throughout years of practice; it is never-ending inits potential for growth. At the same time, it is a practice thatyields immediate results. You can experience a difference in yourlovemaking right now if you follow these nine simple steps. Tantric Loving Step by Step 1. Intention Regularlovemaking has a goal, orgasm. If you both come at the same instant,many believe this is as good as it gets. However, this approach oftenresults in a great deal of frustration and performance anxiety. WithTantric sacred loving there is no goal, but there is a purpose, union.Your intention is to merge with your lover in all aspects, body, mind,heart and soul, not just body. You can help this along by looking atyour lover differently, by seeing your partner as a god or goddess, asa living expression of the divine. Look for the glory, the beauty andthe wonder in your playmate and in yourself and let that shine. 2. Creating a Sacred Loving Space Setthe mood; transform any ordinary space, bedroom, living room, etc.,into a sacred space. It takes only a few minutes and costs little ornothing. The important thing is your intention, not the specific itemsyou use. First, clean the room; vacuum, dust, and put away any clutterlying about. In the evening dim the lights and use lots of candles.Bring in plants or fresh cut flowers. A bowl of fruit is very sensual.You may wish to have a bottle of wine to share. Bring special objectsthat have emotional importance for into the room. Make up a lover's bedusing your finest clean linens (silk is exquisite) and have lots ofpillows handy. When you have finished creating the space, take afew moments to purify it energetically. That means consciously sendingaway negative or fearful thoughts and feelings, and inviting in thosethat are joyous, passionate and safe. Create your own rituals withsweet grass, incense, and musical instruments. 3. The Lover's Purifying Bath Cleanseeach other in preparation for your joyous union. Wash away the dirt andcares of the world. A hot bath with essential oils and bath salts isperfect, especially if you can both fit into the tub at the same time.A shower is the next best thing, but perfectly acceptable. Theessential thing is to be squeaky clean. After all you will be eatingoff that skin! Make the bath a slow, luxurious affair giving completeattention to your lover. Wash and dry each other with playful abandon.Men shave or trim facial hair and apply scent. Women apply their bestperfumes and lotions. Sensually prepare your bodies for the delightsahead. 4. Honor, Respect and Permission Trust,surrender and opening your heart are essential if you want to reach theheights of bliss. It is not just technique that will get you there. Youmust join together as loving equals on the sexual journey. Men,think of the yoni (vagina) as a potential opening, don't ever take yourlady for granted! Speak softly how much you adore, love and respect heras you gently blow on her ears and nibble on her ear lobes. Let herknow that you think of her constantly and how strong your desire is tomake love with (not to) her. Also, let her know that you invite her toawaken sexually and to express her sexuality fully. Let her know thatyou are NOT caught in that tired old cultural conditioning that stillinsists "good girls" do not enjoy sex, the Madonna/Whore split. Makeher believe you when you tell her that you know she can be all shewants to be: a successful career woman, a respectful daughter, afaithful wife, a caring mother, a passionate lover and a sincerespiritual seeker all at the same time. Tell her how beautiful she is,how wonderful she smells, and all the things you appreciate most abouther. Finally, ask permission to be her passionate Tantric lover. Ladies,let your man know that he is safe! He may act macho and tough, showinglittle emotion, but inside most men are afraid of emotional intimacy.The tougher a man acts the greater this fear of trusting andsurrendering will be. Let him know that you admire his strength, butthat it also turns you on when he allows himself to be vulnerable byshowing his feelings. Tell him how handsome he is and how talented.Mention all the things you like most about him. Tell him why you lovehim so deeply. Tell him how much you think about him when he is away,and how you have fantasies about making love with him and touching himwhen he returns. Make him believe that you really want him sexually.Finally, ask permission to be his passionate Tantric lover. 5. Foreplay Twosimple ways to tune into each other are harmonizing your breathing andgazing deeply into each other's eyes. By matching your breathingrhythms and making soulful eye contact you connect emotionally andenergetically as well as physically. Begin to explore each other'sbodies with wonder, lust and playfulness. Remember, in Tantricsacred loving there is no goal. You are not trying to get somewhere.Each touch is complete in and of itself. Once you master how to workwith your sexual energy both lovers will discover they can have orgasmsjust by touching fingers together, or looking into each other's eyesacross a crowded room! So men are not in a hurry to get at the woman'sbreasts or into her yoni. When touching her body, start at theextremities, fingers and toes, and work in toward the hot spots. Goslowly! Generally men enjoy having their genitals touched at any time,but women usually only enjoy having their breasts and genitals touchedafter they are already sexually excited from other touching,stimulating conversation, or emotional connection. Make sure the womanis well lubricated before any attempt at intercourse. If possible, helpher to have a clitoral orgasm before moving on to intercourse. 6. Intercourse Fiveto fifteen minutes of lovemaking is usually not satisfying for women.Men can learn to delay ejaculation so that lovemaking can be extendedfor hours. A man can delay ejaculation for weeks or months at a time,not just during one lovemaking session. A man who masters hisejaculation response can separate orgasm from ejaculation and become amulti-orgasmic-man! Such a man can last long enough in lovemaking sothat his female partner will have enough time to also have multipleorgasms. Although Tantric loving lasts several hours, this doesnot mean you are having active intercourse during that entire time.Intercourse is interspersed with touching, oral play, quietly holdingeach other, dancing, massage, etc. It is a good idea for a man to allowhis erection to subside every 30-45 minutes to exchange the bloodsupply and recharge his oxygen and hormone levels in the lingam (penis). 7. Moving Your Energy: The Passion Pump Ridingthe wave of bliss happens when the lovers become totally arousedsexually, maintaining that arousal for a period of time. They build upintense hot sexual energy. For the man, if this energy has nowhere elseto go, there will be such great pressure in the prostate, that it willgo into involuntary spasm and ejaculation will end the lovemaking.However, with a combination of breathing, relaxation, and musclecontraction exercises both men and women can learn to circulate sexualenergy through their own and their lover's body. Ultimately the egoboundaries disappear and the lovers become one in ecstatic union. Themuscle contraction exercise is very simple. If you were urinating andstopped the flow of urine in mid-stream you would be contractingexactly the right muscles in exactly the right way. This squeezing andrelaxing of muscles around your genitals is called the PC Pump. It'sthe first and most important exercise in learning to circulate yoursexual energy. At the peak of sexual arousal, either duringintercourse or manual/oral stimulation stop your normal lovemakingmovements and focus on moving the sexual energy that's pulsing in yourgenitals. Move it up and through your body. Use slow, deep abdominalbreathing to keep your body relaxed. Add the PC pumping action andvisualize moving energy up your body in a ball of fire or a wave oflight or a current of electricity. Through your eyes, your hands, yourgenitals pass this powerful force on to your lover. At first, this mayseem difficult because we are not accustomed to paying attention to ourinternal energy. With practice, you will be able to recognize anddirect it. 8. Afterplay Regular lovemakingusually ends (often abruptly) when the man ejaculates, but Tantricsacred loving often ends while the lovers still have desire. Thisassumes the man has some mastery over his ejaculation response so thatending lovemaking is a conscious choice, sometimes includingejaculation, sometimes not. With Tantric loving you wind down yourlovemaking with slow caresses, words of endearment and honoring eachother with food and drink. 9. Sharing Wine, Food and Other Sensual Pleasures Thesharing of good food, wine and other intoxicants, sensual massage,dressing up in costumes and playing sexual games are part of theancient Tantric tradition. While Tantra is serious, it need not beheavy. Lighten up; be playful, lusty and daring! Tantra loversknow that they are personally responsible for their own sexualfulfillment and their own spiritual progress. This may be especiallyimportant for men. Many men experience a great deal of performanceanxiety. But even the greatest, most sensitive, highly skilled Tantriclover cannot make a woman have orgasms. She must be able to go to thatplace in herself that is orgasmic. Sexual/spiritual ecstasy has littleto do with control. It requires trust, surrender and letting go. Bothlovers must learn to do this. If there is some psychological work to dobefore you will allow yourself to open in this way, then get on withit! In the meantime, please each other with the preparation, servingand consumption of fine food and drink. Lavish each other with touchingin sensual massage. Dress up (and down) for each other. Take ondifferent personalities with different costumes; wear masks. Play andlaugh together. Celebrate your spirit through your sexuality. Open yourheart. Let your lover in and your love out! Article Tags: Tantric Sacred Loving, Sacred Loving, Loving Step, Sexual Energy, Muscle Contraction, Sensual Massage, Same Time, Tantric Loving, Tantric Sacred, Each Other, Tantric Lover, Into Each, Each Other's