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Why are some people experiencing relationship bliss whileothers have resorted to “believing” that there’s no such thing? Well, this iswhat it all comes down to: It’s all in the way you think and what you’ve “chosen” toadopt as your “belief” about relationships. How you were raised and the lessonsand stories shared with you by people whom you thought were older and wiser,play a huge part in this.  Let me remind you: Older does not necessarily mean thatthey’re wiser or that they’re right. These individuals, as wonderful as theymay be, could themselves have been misguided and therefore taught you thingsthat may have done more harm to your life decisions than good.  What makes it worse is that their misguided teachings gotpassed down from generation to generation. And no one even stopped to question,“Where did this information really come from? Who are those people who startedit? What were their true intentions? What caused them to see this as theirtruth? Does their truth have to be my truth?” We all experience life differently based on many variablesincluding upbringing, religion, cultural beliefs and past experiences. All thiscollectively affects the choices we make; choices that lead to either joy orpain. And as a result, we all adopt different “truths” and end up attractingothers who agree with our truths – our beliefs. We call them truths because that’s what we “know” based onour own experience. But what we may fail to understand here is that there aremany truths out there, many different beliefs. Some will serve you better thanothers. So why not choose the beliefs that will serve you best? It might do you good to remember this: Beliefs are nothingmore than something you’ve held in your mind long enough that they’ve become“real” to you – they’ve become your “truth.” We get used to a certain way of doing things and continuethat pattern out of habit, simply because it is comfortable. In order to changeyour life (your relationships), you have to find a way to break the pattern.This is not easy but people do it everyday. You can at anytime let go of your old beliefs that aren’tserving you well, in exchange for a belief that will change your life for thebetter. You need only decide that you want to do this, and then, just do it.This is not new news. Many people have done this already and have been able toattract great love in their lives. Why not you, too? Most of us are on auto-pilot; we’ve been conforming to theways of the society, thinking that that’s “the way things should be.” But,think about this: It only takes one person with inaccurate information tomislead another. That’s all it takes for a chain effect of distortedinformation to begin from one person to the next. And with that, their children and those children’schildren all learn and live a whole sequence of experiences that aren’tnecessarily the ideal way of life. They grow up with misguided beliefs thatthey’re not even aware of. It’s like a fish would think that the world is allwater. If they could talk, they wouldn’t even know to ask if that’s true ornot. Why? Because they were born in water and water is all they know to betrue. So why ask? But, if they were to ask, they would realize that there’smore, and that the world is not all water.  And so the same is said for people who are conditioned tocertain beliefs. If their beliefs are making them happy and attracting theright relationships, then I would say, “Yes, hold on to those beliefs asthey’re serving you well. You are happy! It can’t get better than that.” Butthis isn’t the case, you see. Most people’s beliefs don’t make them happy;their beliefs attract the wrong relationships. And if this is the case withyou, then perhaps you should question your beliefs. Stop and ask: “Who said this is the way it should be? Who?My parents? The government? What makes them all so sure? The ads on TV andbillboards?” Well, that’s a shame if you rely on ads for the truth. Print adsor stuff on TV are a way of marketing! Their intent is to sell you on what theywant you to buy – make you feel like you need something even when you don’t.  Bottom line: If you want better relationships, you cancertainly have it! It’s okay if your parents got divorced. Sure, you knowpeople who fight often and still stay together. Maybe you even know couples thatare in relationships for the wrong reasons. So what? Why should you let theirexperiences affect how you want your relationships to be? Their experiences aretheirs; the choices, too – it has nothing to do with you. You have your ownchoices to make.  So choose: Do you want to look at all the relationshipsthat aren’t working and believe them tobe your truth, or do you want to look at all the relationships that areworking, and make those your truth,instead?  Know this: It is your birthright to receive love in itspurest form, regardless of who you are. But somehow for most of you, thisconcept got lost in translation since your birth. Maybe your parents didn’tknow to tell you this. And perhaps your society at large don’t make a point toteach you this. So it is up to you to now know this. Be strong in this beliefregardless of what you’ve been taught or have seen in the past.  If you don’t stand firm to a belief that makes you happy,you will continue to be influenced by all thoughts outside yourself. Andthoughts outside yourself will only mislead you for they are not your owntruth; they are someone else’s.  Your beliefs do not represent who you truly are. You maythink they represent who you are for you have identified yourself with them forso long. But they’re not who you trulyare. You see, life’s truth for you is this: Anything that is truly who you arewill feel right to you – will make you feel happy, not sad or dissatisfied.  So ask yourself one simple question: “Do my beliefs aboutlife and relationships make me happy? Do they inspire me?” If your answer isn’tyes, then it’s time to seriously question your old beliefs, perhaps even letthem go. Really, perhaps it’s time to let them go. So why have some people been able to achieve happy,healthy relationships? It’s definitely not because they’re lucky or thatthey’re more special than you. It has nothing to do with anything of thatnature.  The only difference between you and them are your thoughts- the thoughts you’ve held in your head for so long now that they’ve becomeyour beliefs; the beliefs that you identify with and have made part of who youare; the beliefs that are doing more harm than good.  What you need to do when adopting a new belief is chooseone that makes you feel most happy and make that your truth. Don’t choose abelief that discourages you. So tune in to your feelings for they will tell youif you’re making the right choice. Plain and simple: The right choice will makeyou feel hopeful and excited, and the wrong choice will make you feel hopelessand unmotivated.  It is not magic when you see other happy couples or whenyou see others find their “soul mate” and are “in love.” It is not yourimagination, nor is it theirs. It is real. But again, it is only as real as youwant it to be. Your old beliefs may not allow you to accept that something thisbeautiful can be true for you, but your new beliefs will. So make a choice tochange the way you think, today. It never fails; even the greatest leaders in the worldwill attest to this: Change the way you think, and you will change your life.