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"Twelve Keys to the Kingdom of Your Heart’s Desire" Thoughtcannot heal a broken heart, and thinking will never open a heart thatis closed. Only feeling can accomplish such miracles. As Blaise Pascalsaid long ago, “The heart has its reasons which reason knows nothingof.” The keys to healing and opening your heart can be found not inrationality but in the realms of emotion, energy, and spirit. You enterthese mysterious domains through a relationship when you surrenderfully to the joys and sorrows of giving and receiving love. In a trulycommitted relationship you dare to start breaking open locks andknocking down walls. Here are the keys necessary and sufficient to open every lock upon your heart. Self-loveWithout self-love there can be no love for another. Loving yourself isthe secure foundation for all enduring relationships. Loving yourselfkeeps you going as long as there is hope of a breakthrough in atroubled relationship. Loving yourself gives you the courage to leave abad relationship. It is the fountain from which flow your love,compassion, and generosity toward the soul mate you adore. IntimacyAn intimate emotional, energetic, and spiritual connection with yourlover will pick the mechanism of the trickiest lock. Sexual andspiritual ecstasy requires that the boundaries between you come down.Your armor must drop away. In a relationship there is no other way toreach the highest joy. Real strength includes emotional vulnerabilityand the transparency of desire, allowing another person in to know allof you, including your perceived weaknesses as well as your strengths.Acting as if you were invulnerable, a mask designed to fool the world,is really only a self-delusion, like that of the man who wears a cheaptoupee and assumes no one notices. CommitmentCommitment is the determination to stand together through life’s joysand sorrows, to maintain your vows of union, and to grow old togetherin love. It includes a willingness to avoid behaviors that threaten orendanger your relationship, particularly in sexual expression whichactivates the emotional pitfalls of insecurity, fear, and jealousy.Commitment does not mean you cannot love any other, but it does meanthat sexual love is exclusive to your chosen soul mate. SelflessnessWhen acting selflessly, with your focus on others rather than youalone, you respect your partner and serve the larger world community.Selflessness stimulates empathy (the capacity to participate inanother’s emotions) and considers: “How will what I do or don’t doaffect the well-being of the one I love, of those closest to me, and ofall others in this world?” Kindness Kindness,almost synonymous for love, is always unconditionally given without anyexpectations. How much have you dropped kindness from your behaviorvocabulary with your lover? How much have your interactions becomeexchanges in which you give something only if there is a guaranteeyou’ll receive something in return? When was your last random act ofkindness toward your soul mate? Daring To beemotionally vulnerable, to make your fears, longings, and desirestransparent, is to risk being judged, rejected, abandoned, and hurt.Daring to take such risks requires uncommon courage, especially if youhave already been stung by betrayal. And yet there can be no open heartwithout risk taking. Trust Trust is a form offaith. In spite of past experiences of deceit or betrayal, you act tosupport your present relationship in love, kindness, and selflessness.You give and give some more, never counting the cost. You know thatyour actions will help bring out the very best in the one you love andthat more love, more happiness, and more joy will come to both of youas well as to those around you. Truth It’s true:The truth will set you free. You can’t have the relationship you dowant if you settle for one you don’t want. Revealing your heart’sdesires to the one you love helps clear away the excess baggage ofself-pity, suffering, doubt, and fear. Any relationship that cannotstand the truth will wither and die. Unconditional LoveLike kindness, unconditional love acts without expectation of reward orresult. You give just to give. Nevertheless, unconditional love doesnot mean that lovers don’t help each other grow. You reject disrespect,abuse, or deceit. Unconditional love does not encourage you to stay ina really bad relationship. With unconditional love, you can lovesomeone even if you don’t like him. Moreover, you can love someone evenif you can’t stay in relationship with her. ForgivenessForgiveness is for you as much as for the one forgiven. You might notforget past transgressions, but you can gain the freedom to act as ifthey never happened. Forgiveness, however, is not blindness. You do notcontinue to accept the same hurtful behavior over and over again. Youmight be able to forgive someone who has harmed you, but you rejectfurther mistreatment. Pleasure In a relationship,the giving of pleasure brings exquisite pleasure to the giver. Fewthings feel as good as completely pleasing your partner. Since givingand receiving pleasure are not only emotional acts but also spiritual,sensual and sexual pleasure can become gateways to spiritual awakening.Aren’t you a better person when you regularly experience pleasure?According to neuropsychologist James Prescott, “Physical affectionalpleasure is not only moral but is morally necessary if we are to becomemoral and spiritual persons in our common bond with humanity." RomanceJust as sensual nutrition is food for your Body Freedom, so is romancesustenance for your Heart Freedom. Romance simply involves repeatedlyaffirming how important your lover is to you. In the first heady daysof falling in love, even the most unimaginative lover shows romanticbehaviors. The trick of romance is to continue your amorous attentionsafter the early blush of romantic infatuation has faded. Romance means making time for each other as lovers. Tell your mate howlovely she is. Assure your partner that you admire him. Small,affectionate tasks that require more effort than dollars (writing apoem or singing a love song) are just as much part of the lover’srepertoire as big ticket items like jewelry, candlelit dinners, andexotic vacations. Remember, the essential part is to recognize anddemonstrate how important your relationship is to you. Keys to your Heart Kingdom Self-love Intimacy Commitment Selflessness Kindness Daring Trust Truth Unconditional Love Forgiveness Pleasure Romance Excerpted from our book Sensual Love Secrets for Couples: The Four Freedoms of Body, Mind, Heart and Soul, by Al Link and Pala Copeland, Llewellyn, 2007