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Step parenting takes both, you and the biological parent. This relationship has to be solid unit. While it may take time to earn the respect of stepchildren, you nevertheless need the complete support of the biological parent. Your relationship will be on the display table and stepchildren take their cues from the strength of this relationship. If this relationship is weak and characterized by arguments, you the stepparent will be viewed as the weak link in this household. Not only do you and the real parent need to be a unified front, you also need to make your relationship a priority. When it comes down to the wire, real parents tend to side with their children, if the romantic relationship is unstable. This leads to power struggles, manipulation and disrespect. When stepchildren learn early on, that they cannot interfere with your relationship with their parent, they refrain from playing one against the other. They have no other choice, but to gradually accept you. Make sure that you and the real parent agree on rules and expectations and let the stepchildren know what they are. Dont try to be an overnight parent. Remember, your stepchildren most likely didnt ask for you. While you can expect a civil treatment, which should be reinforced by the real parent, your stepchildren may remain distant and reserved for a while. They fear loosing their parent to you and it may take some time until you cease to be a threat. Here are a few tips on being a good stepparent:Be patient and allow for adjustment timeGet involved with your stepchildren and show sincere interest. Dont sit on the fence waiting for their reaction it makes them more suspicious Be yourself and do not play a role in the presence of your stepchildrenEnforce the rules that have been established for themOffer your help and ask them to help you with tasksBe a united front with the real parentMake your romantic relationship a priorityHave an identity as a couple independent of the childrenDo things with the children and alone as a coupleInsist on couple privacy Never say anything negative about any of their family membersAllow them to love their other real parent, who is not living with themBe kind and be fairIf they are old enough, let them know that they too are responsible for harmonyBeing a stepparent comes with rewards and punishment. Be prepared for the ups and downs. However, if you can see the light at the end of the tunnel, the rewards may be well worth the effort.© 2006 Allie Ochs
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